Make your child asuccessful human being

Make your child a nice and a successful human being

          Kids learn in an interactive environment. By playing certain games and providing interactive lessons to your kid can help them in achieving success in life and have a bright future

          I live in a joint family along with my parents, a younger brother, uncle-aunty, their two kids and my grandparents. The youngest member of my family, my six year old cousin is very active. Since he started walking and talking, we noticed him to be very active in terms of imitating visuals or some characters showing up on the television. Slowly he started copying some violent scenes from movies and used to hit everyone in the family. We ignored it but things got worse when he started abusing at such a small age of four and half years. Being the youngest member and the dearest to everyone in the family, he was getting spoiled every day.

          At five he turned out to be a completely spoilt chap who used to misbehave, talk violently and had no manner to treat elders. Some relatives of ours mentioned about his ill-behaviour when they visited us. He made us feel embarrassed at several public occasions as well. My entire family tried their best to bring good learning to him but all in vain. And when he became out of our tolerating powermy uncle decided to put him in a boarding school.Now he is in boarding school and we all hope that the strictness in the boarding environment will help him in becoming an improved and well-behaved kid.

          But when I give this all a deep thought, somewhere I find us all responsible for making him this bad. Actually, if we had been little strict with him since beginning, he would have not been turned this spoiled. On the contrary, ignoring his little mistakes stimulated him to commit even more mistakes. Truly, providing the right upbringing and learning to a kid is really crucial which is only possible in the right environment.Like my cousin, there are many kids who behave inappropriately at such young age. So what should all parents do to put them on the right path of life!

          Well, bringing right learning to kids is a comprehensive process that requires great efforts from parents, school, teachers as well as the society. As kids do not understand the complex lectures, they should be tough desired habits, manners and behaviour in a fun environment. And thus, the concept of interactive learning is becoming popular among parents to bring great learning to their kid. Kids learn great things while playing some interesting mind games. Thus, parents should try to play nice games with their kids to nourish their mind, creativity and intelligence. Sometimes pampering your kids with special surprizes like organizing kids party in Singaporeserves as a great way for bring quality learning to kids.

          There are various renowned kids party performers who perform entertaining yet education based acts to impart great knowledge and learning to kids in a fun and cool manner. Science magic tricks to make kids learn science along with creative artwork like face painting, balloon sculpting and caricatures making to nourish the creativity of your kids, are being offered by these kids’ party performers. So make sure that you bring quality learning, knowledge and habits to your kids since very young age by adopting some nice interactive learning games and programs.

Good learning in a fun manner; Understand your child

What Makes a Child Happy?
        We all want the same things for our kids. We want them to grow up to love and be loved, to follow their dreams, to find success. Mostly, though, we want them to be happy. But just how much control do we have over our children's happiness? My son, Jake, now 7, has been a rather somber child since birth, while my 5-year-old, Sophie, is perennially sunny. Jake wakes up grumpy. Always has. Sophie, on the other hand, greets every day with a smile. Evident from infancy, their temperaments come, at least in part, from their genes.

Don't Try to Make Your Child Happy
        It sounds counterintuitive, but the best thing you can do for your child's long-term happiness may be to stop trying to keep her happy in the short-term. "If we put our kids in a bubble and grant them their every wish and desire, that is what they grow to expect, but the real world doesn't work that way," says Bonnie Harris, founder of Core Parenting, in Peterborough, New Hampshire, and author of When Your Kids Push Your Buttons: And What You Can Do About It (Grand Central Publishing).

To keep from overcoddling, recognize that you are not responsible for your child's happiness, Harris urges. Parents who feel responsible for their kids' emotions have great difficulty allowing them to experience anger, sadness, or frustration. We swoop in immediately to give them whatever we think will bring a smile or to solve whatever is causing them distress. Unfortunately, Harris warns, children who never learn to deal with negative emotions are in danger of being crushed by them as adolescents and adults.

Once you accept that you can't make your child feel happiness (or any other emotion for that matter), you'll be less inclined to try to "fix" her feelings -- and more likely to step back and allow her to develop the coping skills and resilience she'll need to bounce back from life's inevitable set back.

Nurture Your Happiness
        While we can't control our children's happiness, we are responsible for our own. And because children absorb everything from us, our moods matter. Happy parents are likely to have happy kids, while children of depressed parents suffer twice the average rate of depression, Murray observes. Consequently, one of the best things you can do for your child's emotional well-being is to attend to yours: carve out time for rest, relaxation, and, perhaps most important, romance. Nurture your relationship with your spouse. "If parents have a really good, committed relationship," Murray says, "the child's happiness often naturally follows."

Praise the Right Stuff
        The goal, Carter agrees, is to foster in your child a "growth mind-set," or the belief that people achieve through hard work and practice, more than through innate talent. "Kids who are labeled as having innate talent feel they need to prove themselves again and again," Carter observes. "Whereas studies show kids with a growth mind-set do better and enjoy their activities more because they aren't worried what people will think of them if they fail." Fortunately, Carter says, research has shown it's possible to instill a growth mind-set in children with one simple line of praise: you did really well on X; you must have worked really hard. "So we're not saying don't praise," Carter stresses. "Just focus on something within your child's control."
"If you praise your child primarily for being pretty, for example, what happens when she grows old and loses that beauty?" Murray asks. "How many facials will it take for her to feel worthwhile?" Interestingly, Murray adds, research shows that kids who are praised mainly for being bright become intellectually timid, fearing that they will be seen as less smart -- and less valuable -- if they fail.

Allow for Success and Failure
        Of course, if you really want to bolster your child's self-esteem, focus less on compliments and more on providing her with ample opportunities to learn new skills. Mastery, not praise, is the real self-esteem builder, Dr. Hallowell says. Fortunately, when it comes to the under-4 crowd, nearly everything they do is a chance to attain mastery -- because it's all new to them: learning to crawl, walk, feed and dress themselves, use the potty, and ride a tricycle. Our challenge is to stand back and let our children do for themselves what they're capable of. "The great mistake good parents make is doing too much for their children," Dr. Hallowell says.

        While it can be difficult to watch our kids struggle, they'll never know the thrill of mastery unless we allow them to risk failure. Few skills are perfected on a first try. It's through practice that children achieve mastery. And through repeated experiences of mastery, they develop the can-do attitude that lets them approach future challenges with the zest and optimism that are central to a happy life.

Give Real Responsibilities
        "Happiness depends largely on the feeling that what we do matters and is valued by others," Murray observes. "Without that feeling, we fear we might be excluded from the group. And research shows that what human beings fear more than anything is exclusion."